Feeling Loved and Loving Others

“Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” (Philippians 2:3-4)


People in our town are crazy, selfish, dangerous drivers. Everyone is in a hurry and there is very little, if any, courtesy or even obedience for the laws. It’s dangerous and now that I have 2 teenage drivers, it has definitely strengthened my prayer life!

I don’t think our town is an exception. When we travel, we see the same, “Get out of my way; I matter but you don’t; I’m more important,” attitudes. Not just on the roads, but practically everywhere we go.

When was the last time a stranger smiled at you? I mean really smiled? It’s rare. So rare, in fact, when it happens it stands out!

It’s a heartbreaking symptom of our busyness and stress…and our selfishness.

When was the last time you intentionally smiled, I mean really smiled, at someone else?—The stressed out cashier, the angry man in line who is grumbling and cursing, the mom with three screaming kids—they may smile back, or they might stare at you like you’re up to something and look away. They might not even seem to notice.

BUT…you just might change their day. One simple kindness, an acknowledgement they exist, something as simple as a smile can start a chain reaction effect that you will never see the result of.

AND…it will uplift you. You will feel better and lighter. Try it!

We are supposed to love, and we are also supposed to be loved. We are supposed to feel cherished, protected, truly loved, and we are supposed to make others feel the same way!

Where do we start?

  • First, we must keep God first. He is the only One truly capable of loving us the way we need. He is only One who has and is everything we need. He must be our source of completeness, wholeness, and fullness. Our identity is in Him!
  • Then, as our faith grows, our love grows. We start to develop the supernatural ability to think of other people and care about their needs, to love them.

We must be intentional about loving God, and loving others. Selfishness comes natural; real love is supernatural!

We spend much of our day craving, earning, and checking for “likes” and “shares” but we aren’t taking time to connect and encourage real, flesh and blood, emotional, eternal people!

Real life relationships are hard. They’re messy. They take time. But we need them!

Let’s be intentional about developing and growing our REAL relationships.

  • Smile at people. Talk to them. And listen.
  • Ask God to reveal people in your life who need an encouraging word. Then text, or even better, call them. Send them a card. Let them know they’re loved.
  • Be transparent—this one might be the hardest, but it’s so important! People can’t know you’re needs if all they see is your smiling face on Instagram or Facebook!
  • Be kind.

My friend, even if you can’t name or picture the face of a single person right now who puts your needs ahead of their own, remember, Jesus is the truest Friend. He is first and He is last and He is everything in between! He will never leave you or forsake you.

And, dear one, if you put God first and focus on your relationship with Him, He will absolutely, without fail, give you the desires of your heart! He will show you what you need, He will help you want what He wants, and then He will fulfill all your needs.

Those are promises, not from me, but from God Himself! Trust Him!

  • “Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” (Psalm 37:4)
  • “And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:19)
  • “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” (Deuteronomy 31:6)
  • “For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 8:38-39)

You are loved. You are not alone. Lift your head and run to Jesus. He is with you and He will never, ever leave you. He loves you so much He died for you!

Let Him fill you and renew you to  go love others more than you love yourself, and let Him show you just how much you are loved!  


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8 thoughts on “Feeling Loved and Loving Others

  1. Michele, this was a wonderful post and you covered a lot of biblical principles in a small space.
    So true–as you said, “We must be intentional about loving God, and loving others. Selfishness comes natural; real love is supernatural! We spend much of our day craving, earning, and checking for “likes” and “shares” but we aren’t taking time to connect and encourage real, flesh and blood, emotional, eternal people!”
    Thank you.
    I hope many others will read it so I’m going to share. 🙂

    1. What a wonderful resolution, and one we all could and should commit to! I pray you are blessed as you show kindness and are overwhelmed with kindness in return!

  2. Great reminder to SMILE at someone during my busy day – I think I’ll be sure to try it tomorrow. (I’m quite the Sonic fountain drink fanatic, and most of the young girls there know me by name and I know most of their names as well. They brighten my day each morning with their kindness, and I hope I return the favor.)

    1. Those kinds of relationships are important, and it matters how we treat others! One kind word or smile can change someone’s day because we have no idea what people are dealing with, but we are all dealing with something! We may not be able to change the whole world, but we can help make someone’s world better! 😀 Thanks for sharing 🙂

  3. I always try to be friendly with the cashiers and other people I meet through the day, but tomorrow I’m going to try your smile challenge. Maybe I can bless a stranger by looking him or her in the eyes and giving an authentic smile. No words necessary. Thanks for the idea!

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